It’s Great To Reach For The Stars But You Might Only Get As Far As The Moon . . . That’s OK

reaching_for_the_stars_by_kaotickellHave you ever experienced that love donates like an exploding star? It can disappear into the cosmos just as quickly but love that grows slowly may never burn quite as brightly as a supernova, but it may deliver more energy over the long run. Remember: It only takes a little spark to start a raging forest fire.

Perfection is a wonderful goal. Always settling for second-best can lead to a lifetime of disappointment. But sense nobody is perfect, you could spend a lifetime searching and wind up getting nowhere. So it makes since to find a partner who may no be perfect or the one yo pictured as your “soul mate,” but there is definitely some chemical reaction going on between you or you wouldn’t be together. Could it bubble and boil more strongly? Perhaps! Would that chemical reaction be stronger with someone else? Maybe? But don’t be too quick to abandon a relationship because your partner doesn’t fit the definition of “soul mate.” 

The French call that feeling of instantaneous love le coup de foundre, the lightning bolt. Luckily, the odds of being hit by a real lightening bolt are small. Maybe, the odds of being hit by le coup de foundre are also small, but at least it’s not the only way to find true love. We live in a world of instant gratification there is no denying that because of the world of instant gratification many end up feeling less satisfied and blinded to love that slowly builds up. That’s because their love bucket it so low. When someone’s love bucket is low they often end up being less satisfied because a relationship takes some work on the parts of both people. That means that both people have to come together in agreement and actually work at having or maintaining a relationship.

Think of it this way fast food doesn’t compare to a meal that takes hours to prepare. Ready-to-wear clothes never fit as well as those that are hand tailored. So just because a relationship take some work on the parts of both people to come together it doesn’t mean that is filled with any less passion than one that sparked at a first glance. In the long run , it may actually provide a lot more heat than a relationship that starts off quickly but peters out just as fast as it began.

 

 

 

Tie Up Your Emotional Loose Ends

It’s time to tie up your emotional loose ends . . .

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Keep Your PromisesEveryone has a few emotional loose ends attached to something that their sweetheart has said or done.  Some are harmful while others fester like unexpressed resentments, unbandaged hurts, unresolved conflicts, unmentioned little embarrassments, or unfair requests that are hiding out in the background. Sadly, unsaid, they stand between sweethearts spoiling their emotional bond, clouding the clarity they’d like to have for one another.

Leaving them with emotional loose ends, instead of letting their conflicts, requests, and difficulties languish in the slough of non-expression, they bring them to a conclusion and make peace with one another before going on. Doing this implies that they both desire and believe they can bring their union into the place of emotional homeostasis, of calm, in which they can begin to take tender emotional risks and deepen their relationship.

We all have a tendency to let things go, to hope that whatever is amiss will just work…

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Wait . . . what? What is an Authentic Voice?

Whether they’re words you’ve already written or thoughts you’ve never let out, blogging or journaling infuse the pages with your own voice and see where life takes you

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An authentic voice is when we are being 100 per cent ourselves, without fear or reservation. Think about the person you are when you are with your friends, spouse, or your children, and your family. Are you consistently the same or do you change according to who your audience is or how they respond? Have you discovered your authentic voice? Think of how you speak on the phone, the voice you use when you are typing an email, or the words you chose when telling a story at the dinner table. Have you ever tried journeying? Or maybe you’re a blogger who hasn’t found your voice yet.  If so try this little exercise. Think of a memory or story  now call your mom or best friend and tell them the story. 

You can start out by saying. “Hey, remember when.  . . ? or , “Did I ever tell you the story about the time . . .? Once you finish the…

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Be Willing To Be Surprised

Love of the heart and soul is mysterious take chances and believe in miracles . . .

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Be Available To The Mystery Love of the heart and soul is mysterious. It takes chances. It believes in miracles. It is breath, movement, music, an evanescent moment, a blissful surprise. To be available to its mystery is to be willing to be surprised . .  . as a child discovers their face in a mirror, or a husband undressing his bride for the first time, and discovers the secrets of her. To be open to the miraculous is at last to be bountifully blessed. It is to move with grace, as you sweetly conduct your life, from the mountains of your mind to the rivers of your heart.

To be available to mystery means that you are open, expectant, waiting , continually poised on tiptoe prepared to be illumined .  .  . not locked down in your own expectations of how you think it should happen. In life and in love, this means living free, with your mind-set loose from its gears…

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Note to Self

You are equipped,unique, and valuable . . .

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Note to SelfOur life experiences, the life lessons we’ve  learned, and our unique gifts all combined, give us the opportunity to walk into the future with unlimited potential to grow into our own success. Success isn’t defined by a collection of assets, an accumulation of power or cash in the bank. If that were the formula, there would be no sorrow for those in the highest tax brackets. Rather, success is living out God’s purpose for your life . . . using the gifting He has given us.

We are designed to seek definition, to seek category, to seek order from chaos. Electrical impulses pour into our brains from each of our five senses ( sight, touch, taste, sound and smell). Our brains have a very sophisticated system . . . using the electrical input to form thoughts and act upon them accordingly  . . . to make order of this flood of…

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You Can Only Be You

You were not built to struggle. Your brain is wired to function according to a specific sequence. When you discover that sequence, that structure, you unlock great potential

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I am womanLet’s be honest we all crave to be accepted and welcomed, sometimes we even compare our gifts to others’, attempting to measure if we belong ; but that’s like trying to reshape your fingerprint to match someone else’s . . . impossible.

If you try to adopt someone else’s roadmap as your own , you will limit where your gift can take you. You can only be you. Who you are at the core will leak out, no matter how much you suppress it. In God’s truth, the true you is meant to reach beyond you, but you can’t grow into the person God created you to be if you live in doubt and unrest. If you constantly undermine your gift by trying to copy other people.

In order to sustain a consistent outlook and pattern, your thoughts, your words, your spirit and your actions must line up. That means that you can…

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Don’t Drift To Far Away From Your Sweetheart

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Lunch On The BeachAs you go through life, there are danger signs everywhere: red lights and stop signs, speed bumps and blinking lights, and circles. But when it comes to a relationship, visible warning signs are few and far between. Sometimes the greatest perils come tiptoeing in sight unseen, and one the most lethal of these sneaky assassins of arbor is boredom.

Before it drains the power out of your love, sweep that gray fog of boredom aside by adding energy. In the same way the warm rays of the sun dissipate a real fog, energy can pierce the grayness of your love. All you have to is: talk, run, jump, ski, walk, go. It doesn’t matter where or how. All that matters is the you do something. The more you do, the further away you’ll push boredom, and the stronger you love will be.

Beware too, that sometimes boredom wears a disguise. It’s call routine. Routines are necessary in…

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