Have you ever experienced that love donates like an exploding star? It can disappear into the cosmos just as quickly but love that grows slowly may never burn quite as brightly as a supernova, but it may deliver more energy over the long run. Remember: It only takes a little spark to start a raging forest fire.
Perfection is a wonderful goal. Always settling for second-best can lead to a lifetime of disappointment. But sense nobody is perfect, you could spend a lifetime searching and wind up getting nowhere. So it makes since to find a partner who may no be perfect or the one yo pictured as your “soul mate,” but there is definitely some chemical reaction going on between you or you wouldn’t be together. Could it bubble and boil more strongly? Perhaps! Would that chemical reaction be stronger with someone else? Maybe? But don’t be too quick to abandon a relationship because your partner doesn’t fit the definition of “soul mate.”
The French call that feeling of instantaneous love le coup de foundre, the lightning bolt. Luckily, the odds of being hit by a real lightening bolt are small. Maybe, the odds of being hit by le coup de foundre are also small, but at least it’s not the only way to find true love. We live in a world of instant gratification there is no denying that because of the world of instant gratification many end up feeling less satisfied and blinded to love that slowly builds up. That’s because their love bucket it so low. When someone’s love bucket is low they often end up being less satisfied because a relationship takes some work on the parts of both people. That means that both people have to come together in agreement and actually work at having or maintaining a relationship.
Think of it this way fast food doesn’t compare to a meal that takes hours to prepare. Ready-to-wear clothes never fit as well as those that are hand tailored. So just because a relationship take some work on the parts of both people to come together it doesn’t mean that is filled with any less passion than one that sparked at a first glance. In the long run , it may actually provide a lot more heat than a relationship that starts off quickly but peters out just as fast as it began.