There is one thing that all mothers can agree on no matter what their job title, income, number of children, education, religion, or location: They want to raise kids who are happy, confident , and self-reliant through childhood to adulthood.
Sometimes stress and quilt brought on by the need to be the “Sacifical Mom” can end up interfering with their ability to achieve this goal. There’s good news for the “Sacifical Mom” she can get back on track by learning and applying these twelve steps. They are proven to help create kids who will live a happily ever after lives as adults.
Look at your child and try to picture him or her in twenty-five years as a grow-up. What do you see? Does your son or daughter have these twelve essential qualities:
- Is he happy, optimistic, and secure? Does he have authentic self-esteem?
- Is she in a healthy, loving relationships? Does she have good friends and loyal allies?
- Does he have a strong moral compass? Does he have good values and strong character?
- Does she have empathy and compassion for all people? Is she kind, unselfish, and humane?
- Does he have self-control and patience? Can he delay gratification?
- Is she able to make good decisions on her own?
- Is he self-reliant?
- Is she responsible and internally motivated? Does she have a good work ethic?
- Is he practical and resourceful in handling day-to-day living?
- Is she resilient? If life throws her a curve, can she bounce back?
- Is he confident and positive about his identity and strengths?
- Does she have fun? does she laugh? Is her life balanced between work and love, self and others?
Don’t forget to take into consideration that kids are born with a certain temperament and genetic predisposition. Certainly there are some things about children’s development that are not under their parents control but many are. Mothers can say good-by to their need to be on the “Sacrificial Motherhood Mania” bandwagon and be the real mothers they know they are, and raise kids who will not only survive but thrive without her. Remember you can’t teach what you don’t know!