We want so badly to have our own feelings recognized, our own needs met, our own insecurities handled, and our own desires fulfilled that the notion of love as service is almost inconceivable to us. We can get so caught up (or bogged down) in the notion of love as a what will I get out of the experience that the idea of serving another is extremely distasteful. At a deeper level, we’re afraid that by serving we might lose the sense of our selves we’ve worked so hard to attain. But in its purest state, love is service, a wholehearted offering so satisfying that it doesn’t feel like service at all, but rather self-fulfilment of the highest order.
Most of us still need practice for this particular outreach of love. We’re not sure how to serve or what our true service might be, and we haven’t practiced serving to such a degree that it feels second nature, graceful, or effortless to us. The truth is that we’re all already serving in one form or another. If you’re a parent, you’re serving your children. If you’ve cared for an invalid neighbor or an aging parent, you have also served in love. If you’ve bandaged the wing of a wounded bird, given a homeless person a dollar, saved a stranger from drowning, given up your set on the bus, then you too have served in love. These are the seedings of service , the places where our hearts have started to open, but should you choose to have your service grow into a huge and sheltering tree, you will be given many opportunities to mature your gift of true service.
Begin by asking yourself the following questions: What does it mean to serve? What would my true service be? How can I develop my service so it can truly become a gift of love? Service in love is temporarily sitting aside your own needs, wants, and priorities and allowing the needs, want and priorities and allowing the needs of another human being to become radiant, so vivid, and so pertinent that, for a moment, your own are dissolved. This gracious moment is love, and the more we live in the practice of service, the more we create this love. For when we serve one another, we also serve the great cause of Love with grace.