Let Go And Surrender

Letting go is an emotional and spiritual surrender. It means willingly jumping out of the lifeboat of your preconceptions of reality and taking your chances out in the open sea of anything-can-happen.

It means that even as your definition of reality is dissolving before your very eyes, you willingly relinquish it, instinctively comprehending that the state of surrender itself will be a creative condition. It’s hard to let go, to live in a formless, destinationless place. All our lives we’re taught to hold on, to be the masters of our fate, the captains of our souls. Letting go isn’t comfortable; it can feel like anything from laziness to utter loss of control. It’s not aggressive and self-assured. It’s not the American way.

But letting go is, in truth, is a most elegant kind of daring. It is vulnerability of the highest order, an emptying out of self, of all the clutter, chatter, ideas, attitudes, schemes, and plans that, ordinarily, we all contain. In this emptiness, there is room for so much; in this vacancy, anything can happen: breathtaking transformations, changes of directions, miracles that will purely astound you, love that comes out of a spiritual conversion. But only if you are willing to truly let go of it all: as the tree dropping her bright leaves for winter, the trapeze artist, suspended in midair between two bars, the diver free-falling from the high dive, have all unequivocally, wholeheartedly let go.

Letting go is being alive to the power of anything is possible. It is living in surrender, trust, and the belief that emptiness is at once the perfect completion and the perfect beginning. So let go. And remember that if you hang on to even a shred or try to make a deal with Gods meaning of letting go you might not experience all the wonderful things that are ment happen to you.

The Care And Feeding Of Big Dreams

If you have big dreams, you have already reaped big benefits, regardless of whether or not your dream materializes into reality.

I’ll bet you didn’t know that Albert Einstein once said:”imagination is more important than knowledge.” Dreaming stretches our imaginations and is a worthwhile endeavor for that reason alone. Using our imagination leads to knowledge and wisdom which makes for great dreams and goals. And if dreams are good , dreams that come true are even better. For the best chance of seeing some of your dreams come true, consider these suggestions:

  • Divide and conquer. The movie What about Bob starring Bill Murray is about Bills zany character Bob who  becomes the overzealous fan of a psychologist who writes a book encouraging “baby steps” toward mental health. Of course, the goal of the movie was to make viewers laugh, not provide a commentary on achieving our dreams. It accomplished both because Bob wrote a best seller book and found true love. His dreams came true because he did everything in moderation or as he called it “Baby Steps.” Dividing a big dream into a series of baby steps can take something that once seemed unattainable and put it very much in our reach. Writing a 200-page book, for example, may seem formidable. Writing a single page, however, is well within our reach. Repeat that same baby step five days a week for one year and your book is done. Think about some of your goals. Can you break a major goal into a series of tiny ones? If so, you’re halfway there.
  • Redefine failure and success. Sandra Glahn writes about a ten-year struggle with infertility n her book. When Empty Arms Become a Heavy Burden. ( Broadman and Holman, 1997). Eventually Sandra and her husband conceived and gave birth to daughter Alexandra. But by then , Sandra had learned how to look at “success and failure” in a whole new light. She writes: “God defines success not in terms of what we allow. He defines it in terms of the transformation we allow His word to make in our lives. I am a success if I can get through my experience with a greater love for God and my spouse that when I started. I am a success on some days if in spite of my lack of ‘success’ I manage to drag myself out of bed, get dressed, and find reasons to be thankful for one more day.” Don’t limit yourself by viewing success and failure as single, narrow path. Ask God to show you his perspective when it comes to your dreams and goals.
  • Embrace risk. Yes, yes, I know what I just wrote about baby steps. But now and then, making a dream come true means taking a gigantic leap. If a rare opportunity presents itself weigh the cost, then consider going for it. Of course pray and pray some more about all the risks involved and seek wise counsel. Notice I said, “weigh the cost,” not  “weigh the odds.” Even if the odds are against you, if the cost in dollars, time, or emotional and physical energy is one you are willing to pay, then don’t let the slim odds deter you. That’s why it’s called “risk.”
  • Admit who you are. “Stop thinking of yourself as a wanna-be. Begin today telling yourself and others who you are.” When I was in high school my friend Elizabeth wrote many articles and a poems for a magazine for Girl Scouts. Elizabeth still has the first five dollar bill she received framed in a glass shadow box hanging on the wall behind her desk in her office. For many years Elizabeth thought of herself as a wanna-be writer and would not submit her articles and short stories for publication.Then one day she suddenly started thinking of herself as a bona fide writer, it became easier to do the things real writers do, like be consistent in sending queries and honing her skills. Elizabeth is a published writer as a result of her changing how she saw herself.
  • Mingle with cheerleaders. The truth is, some people bring doom and gloom wherever they go. They are “killjoy’s.” Their negative attitudes could depress a roomful of monkeys on a caffeine high. I’d wager even Norman Vincent Peale would have a hard time harnessing the power of positive thinking in their presence. When my friend Elizabeth began writing short stories for magazines she made the mistake of showing her first story to a friend who spent twenty minutes giving unsolicited advice. Elizabeth is not particularly thin-skinned about her work, but the comments were about her work. They were quite personal in nature. Elizabeth didn’t think her friend was trying to be harsh but her friend wasn’t being careful, and Elizabeth came away from the encounter crushed. It took her six weeks to brush herself off and begin writing again. In order to survive and thrive, our dreams need TLC. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with constructive criticism, but make a habit of surrounding yourself with friends who are, by nature, encourager’s rather than pessimist.
  • Bond with a mentor. Do you know someone who has traveled a little father down the road you are pursuing? If you do, there’s a chance she would enjoy sharing with you her secrets of success. Be sensitive, however: If you sense that she is evasive, or might be feeling threatened by your pending success, then find another mentor. Look for someone who has experienced the dream you would like to claim for your own, someone who talks freely about her own journey and is willing to help you on yours. Inspire yourself with “can-do” stories and people. Don’t you just love stories where someone beats the odds to make a dream come true? These kinds of Rocky Balboa stories are everywhere we find them in biographies, autobiographies, movies, on-line news stories, and very likely among your own friends. If you are trying to pursue a dream or if your dreams have died and you wish you could rekindle the old sparks again. Build up your heart and soul by watching and reading”can do” stories that celebrate the strength inherent in the human spirit.
  • Give yourself a mental picture to follow. They say a picture is worth a thousand words. So give yourself a picture of what your dream might look like in real life. Start a scrapbook and begin filling it with images that say something to about your dream. Want to run the Boston Marathon? Look for images of runners and other athletes, well as articles about people who have achieved impressive athletic fets. You will, quite literally, be providing your mind with a blueprint you can follow as you continue working toward your goal. 

Once again, here are the steps: Divide and conquer. Redefine failure and success. Embrace risk. Admit who you are. Mingle with cheerleaders. Bond with a mentor. Inspire yourself with “can do” stories. Give yourself a mental picture to follow.

The unfortunate fact is that, despite our best efforts, our dreams don’t always come true. Indeed, we can experience great pain when a beloved dream crashes and burns.  And yet, even as we sift through the ashes of one dream, we often find the stirrings of hope for another. That’s the beauty of the human spirit. In fact, the capacity to dream can be a key indicator of mental and emotional health. After all, a dream is little more than a kind of passionate hope, and without hope, we die. It’s as simple as that. Take stock of your dreams. If necessary, look back through the years and resurrect some of the dreams from your childhood. Nature your dreams, and they will nurture you in return. 

A Dream Is The Belief That You Can

Sometimes all you need to achieve a dream is the belief that you can, the resolve that you will, and the plan to make it happen.

When you have a dream and you can create a dream map that will help you make your dreams come true. There are many books written with exercises and resources with the goal of helping us to attain our goals and making our dreams come true. 

Our dreams whether they are dreams we have at night or the hopes and aspirations we have for our lives represent some of the most profound, protected and precious parts of ourselves. When we share them we immediately create intimacy because they are so private. Images from our sleep are a map of our unsuspected and uncensored selves they are messages to us from the deepest reaches of our unconscious. In the enigmatic language of our own private symbols and they can reveal the secrets we keep even from ourselves.

Telling your sweetheart your dreams is an act of self-revelation for in opening the door to your unconscious in this way you are allowing your partner to meet you at a special unguarded place, the place of magic that is often beyond common sense or even words. Whether or not your dreams make perfect sense to you or your partner ( and you don’t have to be Sigmund Freud to receive at least some of their meanings), being given a  view of your partners through this mysterious looking-glass is to be taken in to his or her spiritual privacy.

The same is true of the dreams that are our aspirations for in revealing our hopes and longings, we are at once most exalted and most vulnerable. In speaking of what we desire, we also reveal how we can be disappointed.

The fact that you always wanted to be a ballerina (and can’t even walk across the livingroom without banging into the wall) is something you don’t want everyone to know, but telling your partner is a way of opening up a sensitive part of yourself for nurturing.

None of us can live out all our dreams. Life isn’t long enough. And all we have more talents than time to explore them in. Although at the same level we realize that as my mother used to say. “You can’t do everything,” there is also a sense of loss attached to letting go of even our most ridiculous or offbeat dreams.

 When we share our unfulfilled dreams we are asking our loved ones to meet us un a place of vulnerability where we can be apprehended not only for who we are but also for who we would like to have been.

Revealing your dreams is an act of trust and it means you believe that the person who loves you desires to see you in your secret essence without being horrified or ashamed without making fun of you. It means you believe you can share your innermost secrets and that the person you love will still be there to comfort and love you unconditionally without judging you.

To Pursue A Dream Is The Belief That We Can

To pursue a dream is the belief that we can and the resolve that we will plus making a plan to make it happen.

The other day while browsing through Books A Million and I noticed that there’s a lot of books written to challenge, inspire, and direct us on how to pursue our dreams. The authors are trying to move us from just merely thinking about our dreams to start living them.

Women of all ages are not just merely thinking about their dreams but they are making them come true.  A dream can especially difficult thing to describe and they aren’t concrete until they come to pass before then they are like clouds. When both of us look at a cloud you may see one thing while I see another. 

 And the picture you see in one moment may quickly change when the first wind comes along. As time goes by-a day, a week, or a year-you may not even remember what you once saw. Let’s face it when it comes to giving a voice and life to our dreams most of us need some help.

There are many speakers and authors who talk about dreams and using what I consider to be smoke and mirrors because they make claims such as “If you can dream it, you can do it. ” Not true! If that was true we would have all achieved the unachievable. 

However there are dreams that are realistic and that can come true. Nobody wanders his or her way to a dream. It seems to me that when ever a dream is achieved the person puts their dream to a test by asking and answering questions such as this one; Who would be the person in the world most pleased if I accomplished my dream. Bingo!  When was the last time you valued your own opinion over the opinions of others?

 Most dreams end once they we shared with others who are not like-minded. Aren’t they? How many times we have an idea, dream or vision and failed to pursue it because of others opinions? 

 I enjoy stories about people like Thomas Edison and Walt Disney. When we think about Thomas Edison we think of the electric light bulb. Here are some words of  inspiration from Thomas Edison. I am not discouraged because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.   

 “Walt Disney Quotes” have been accessed by Millions of people from hundreds of Countries and this just goes to show that people all over the world enjoy having their imaginations sparked. Doesn’t it? Walt Disney was a man who is an example of someone who pursed his dreams. This is one of his quotes  “All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.”